MATRIMONY
Humans do
live in association with one another. No benefit comes by living a
solitary life. Keeping friends is natural to us. But these friendships always
do come in levels. We share our lives with others based on what brings us
together. Some friendships are just for familiarity purposes with nothing much to
achieve together as well as no real-time commitments. Others, as a result, are of social groups or professional associations where community goals are
at stake. The interest of the organization is held in high esteem.
However, there
is one other form of relationship that is much closer and intimate than the
others. It is MATRIMONY. Though there are levels of intimacy before marriage
which are acceptable to society, those are nothing compared to actual
marriage. It is only in marriage that we find rights, privileges, and
security. This is so because both partners publicly swear to be faithful
to each other. Moreover, it is expected that both will work for the interest of the
other partner. Their accountability to the marriage vows is keenly watched over
by the public; the more reason you won't enjoy such in dating and courtship.
Only a
legal marriage relationship can be transformative. In marriage there is much at
stake. Paramount in it is the success of the union. To be
happy-together-forever-after there is a cost to pay, a personal cost. So much ought to be given up. Matrimony does not support selfishness or individualistic
tendencies. It is a mutual experience. Marriage life will work for you if you
yield to it. Marriage won't permit you to stick to your old ways, earlier
choices, attitudes, appetites, behaviors, etc., which may not be of benefit to
the other partner. Hence, there is bound to be series of adjustments in one's life
for the union to endure. This is not a loss of self-identity but a healthy
compromise. These adjustments and self-improvements will come only when
marriage is priced and valued by the couple, with mutual respect to back it up.
Those who easily do resist change should not expect that their matrimony will
be a smooth sail.
Writer:
ITORO OROK
(itoroobongorok@gmail.com)
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